ok noobie me, I didnt think to try the full server.fqdn.local address. i am able to access from outside on the VPN connection. however, i am posed with another issue however.
I not able to access the vpn from outside without the server being on DMZ with the router. I have proper ports setup though i get errors 868 a dns error, 800 some sort of a user error and 812 some other kind of vpn tunneling error no matter what i do to configure the firewall/router. All of the ports are configured both as passthroughs as well as forwards to the server. Everything works very wonderfully if i setup the server's private IP address on the DMZ, however, no VPN can connect when i put it back behind the firewall.
Although, behind the firewall, the server is accessible through https://fqdn.com/remote, https://fqdn.com/exchange, https://fqdn.com, http://fqdn.com ?? so all the secure and normal http ports are open. i also have a mail.fqdn.com setup for pop and the pop/smtp works wonderfully also behind the firewall. this is just a vpn thing.
Any other ideas? maybe its the router, i am sure i am missing something within the router thats still blocking or a port that i dont seem to have open or something not sure.
here is a list of ports and ranges that i have opened/forwarding:
All of them pointed to the servers private IP address. a few of the ports opened were to try and diagnose the VPN stuff and see how to make it work. some of these will be re-closed as soon as i figure out or get a resolution answer on what VPN should be using and how to make it work with the router and the server behind the firewall.
The router is a linksys firewall router that is completely configurable and the firmware in the router is completely up to date.
Thanks so much again in advance for all of the information given.