Suppose this is your dataTemplate-
<DataTemplate>
<StackPanel Loaded="StackPanel_Loaded">
<TextBlock x:Name="textBlock">Column1</TextBlock>
<TextBox x:Name="textBox"/>
</StackPanel>
</DataTemplate>
Now to access value use this code-
private void StackPanel_Loaded(object sender, RoutedEventArgs e)
{
StackPanel stap = sender as StackPanel;
TextBlock txb = stap.FindName("textBlock") as TextBlock;
txb.Text = "hello world!";
}